Who's Gonna Pay the Check

So, this was a challenging weekend with regards to my relationships.
Normally, my intention with these blogs is never to expose people or directly use the names of people in my life...it is about "Being Tracy"...not about being anyone else.

However, something unusual happened to me tonight, which caused me to warn others of a person whom I've come across...

I deleted a couple contacts from my phone who had been, as my daughters say, "ghosting" me, (which means going silent, suddenly, after communicating with me, FOR YEARS, off and on, but frequently "ghosting"me, for a reason unbeknownst to me).
Then, spent the St. Patrick's Day holiday with my friends...many of whom are married.  

St. Patrick's Day is also the day my oldest daughter was born 25 years ago, 

  so a little reminiscent.  

One thing that we don't have enough of in this lifetime is time, though, so just decided this weekend to get those people out of my life, who are wasting/stealing my time, so I can have more time to spend with people in my life who are actually worthy of it.

Then, to add to the challenging weekend, I found out the new
 "vitamin coffee" that I had been drinking for a couple WEEKS, was keeping me awake at night.
It can be very difficult to run during the day on no sleep and/or be nice!!

I didn't sleep much last night and my girlfriend Tina
called this morning, as I was laying in bed after no sleep, and to be honest, a little disappointed in the dating prospects that I have been coming across.

Tina: How was yesterday? (St. Patrick's Day)

Me: Fine  (this is an unusual response from usual up-beat me...hard to be upbeat with no sleep)

Tina: Going to Monty's soon 4 lunch if u can bare another day there!!!

Me😑ok Thanks

       I will try to pick myself up to get over there

I had been feeling like I was just going to lay in bed all day, but then when Tina invited me...and sounded like she wanted me to come...that was all the drive I needed to pick myself up, and get outa the house!!  It doesn't usually take much!!  I would just about WAY rather be doing just about ANYTHING other than sitting at home!!

(Tina said as soon as I text her "Fine," she showed it to her husband, and told him
they HAD to invite me!!)😂

Feeling unusually tired after meeting my friends Tina and her husband, Don, for lunch,
I did what I never do on a Sunday afternoon...
Afterward, I went home to bed to rest, which worked out perfectly, because then amazingly,
my 2 daughters that live with me, Caroline and Tiffany, were also home, so it allowed us a little time to catch up, and then again, I retired to my bedroom, and allowed the girls a little time to watch TV...
I never watch tv...except with them...occasionally.

So after laying in bed for a couple of hours, restlessly, I started looking at a dating app on my phone...thinking that if I found someone interesting, that maybe I would go out and do something...I wasn't' really hungry, though, because the first thing I did when I got home was eat the left over pasta dish that I brought home last night...( I RARELY eat pasta...for dietary reasons)
But, I just felt like it would be nice to have a male connection, and feeling a little down when I went out last night on my own for dinner, I had succumbed to ordering pasta before the night was over.
My own form of dietary suicide.😂

Made me think of a guy I was talking with yesterday,
he was saying that he just likes women...not necessarily sexually, but that he likes to be around women...he said he feeds off that energy.  

Then I started thinking, well, maybe THAT is what I need... a little testosterone energy!!  

Afterall, I am not dating anyone, and it is nice just to be around the other gender at times.

I was thinking that maybe I feed off that energy too!

So then this guy came up:

Will.   I don't usually read the profiles until after I connect with someone, 

but then I read: that he is just here for the evening, 

so I was going to delete him. 

One evening is not what I am looking for, but just as I raised my finger to delete him, 

I suddenly received a friendly message from him.

He told me he loves the way I dress!

Then I noticed: well, he dresses pretty nice too!!

I like that!

So then I responded, and we started chatting back and forth, and then he called me, and he sounded totally normal...interesting even...he sent me another picture of him.  

Told me his full name: Will Muguire

Even spelled it for me.

Didn't want me to be worried about going out with him.

Told me I could look him up online.

Said when we hung up the phone, he'd send me a selfie.

He said that his family live here, (His mother lives in Kendall), 

and he is in a position that if he wanted to or he met someone special, 

that he could eventually MOVE here.
He went to college here, and lived in Miami for years.

To be honest, I wasn't attracted at all to the second picture, 

As my friend, David remarked that he looked like a "White Obama look-alike," 

but I WAS attracted to the guy I talked to on the phone.  

He sounded interesting, genuine, friendly, intelligent, successful, familial, 

(told me about his mom and daughters) 

and LOW PRESSURE.  

He was very open about who he was, and what he was looking for, 

which right now was just friendship.

Said if I wanted to kiss him on the cheek (or more), at the end of the date, 

that was up to me...

Anything that happened between us was up to me.

He was just hoping to meet someone nice.

Quality...Just what I like.

A good guy.

So I agreed to a date at 8pm...amazingly...

I couldn't believe it! 

I was impressed that he was right on time!

When we had scheduled the date less than an hour earlier, 

and he said he still had to run to his hotel, I didn't know how he was going to do it.

But still, it was early enough for me to go out, 

and get in early enough to get a good night sleep before work Monday morning!! 

As I had told him that I wasn't up for a late evening.

He had expressed to me that he was interested in taking me out to a nice dinner, 

and wanted to see South Beach, and was interested in getting to know me!

He said he had ordered a pizza, and was just going to go to his room to eat it, and watch a movie, but instead decided to download this dating app...

he "never does this," but then when I came up...

and he read my profile, and listened to my "anthem,"

he said, he thought, WHY NOT!?

Kept saying that he couldn't believe that he had done this!

When he picked me up in his Black Car SL something or other. 

(I really don't know cars, but his rental car looked and sounded nice)

He said he had already passed an Argentinian Steakhouse, 

he noticed on his way to pick me up that he wanted to take me to...

right around the corner...

PERFECT.

He had told me he wanted me to decide where we should go for dinner, 

and I was unsure where to take him, so this was a huge relief.

When he got in, as he had greeted me at the door, and walked around to help me in the car, 

he pointed out that he had on the song "Dear No One" by Tori Kelly 

that is listed on the dating app, as my "anthem."

Wow, I had forgotten.  Nice touch. 

I could hear the song radiating throughout the car.

Fortunately, it was a short drive to the restaurant or I told him that song always brings me to tears.

It is about a woman who has learned to be happy on her own

...she doesn't NEED anyone, 

but would eventually LOVE to find someone to complete her life.

She's "not LOOKING for her future someone."

My song.

I later told him that I prefer a man who makes the decisions

...just as my father did and does when we do something together!

So, I was very happy that he had chosen the restaurant, and I wasn't really hungry, so anything that he wanted to order for us to share would be great...

that I just don't eat a lot of carbs and love seafood.

 He ordered us a Shrimp appetizer, and then told me he was
going to surprise me with the rest of our order...
but said he thinks he knows me by now from my dating profile, and has an idea of what I like.
Even quoted my profile.
I was like, gosh, this guy is really observant!!
It was impressive...he had been here for such a short time, but really seemed to take notice of me.

He ordered us a bottle of red wine to share, 

(asked my preference, and then chose an Argentinian wine) 

and 2 lbs of lobster, he said when it arrived(he wanted to surprise me)

...it tasted and looked amazing!

I was feeling pretty lucky...like this was a pretty great guy...

(I was thinking of all the people who say men up north are going to be WAY better for me.  

Maybe they are right?)

He kept talking about how he couldn't believe how lucky HE had been to meet me!

Couldn't believe he was sitting there with a "smile on his face!"

Even came over to my side of the table a couple times to steal a couple of quick kisses, 

first on my cheek..then on my lips.

I had been looking at him, and thinking: 

"I don't know...could I LIKE this guy??  

Well, he seemed like he really wanted to take good care of me..."

I was thinking of ways he might be able to improve his appearance

...like let his hair grow a little longer.

Get Botox.

That is what I want...he was ACTING like the kind of man whom I want in my life...

Just really didn't look like the kind of man who I'd envisioned for myself.

He had on jeans and a short sleeve checkered shirt, and apologized for the way he was dressed

...though I did notice he had nice shoes and looked like a nice watch like mine, bigger. (Rolex?)

 Although I couldn't eat but a couple bites, and he ate the rest, after he'd cut me off a couple pieces that I promised I couldn't wait to eat tomorrow for lunch, and we had great conversation, 

so I was really surprised when he got up after the 

meal to go to the bathroom, and a few minutes later, 

I received the following text:

"Materialistic" ...that seemed to be a common theme with him.

He divorced his wife, who was materialistic, and then found a girlfriend, who also was materialistic. 

My first thought was that this was a joke...but I was trying to think if that guy seemed that funny!?

Which he did not.

The restaurant was really surprised to find out that he had left me there...

(We had been getting along so famously that it was hard for the waitress to get an order from us)

...guess he'd said he went out to get something from the car.

The hostess told me that "my husband went to get something from the car."

But, still...someone had to pay this bill that he had left me with, 

so I paid it...knowing that plenty of gentlemen have taken me out, and bought me very nice meals.

Clearly, this was NOT a gentleman. 

Yes, it did hurt, because it really was sounding like we had as he'd said:

 "so much in common"

...he had 2 daughters, my daughters age, 23 and 25, 

(showed me a picture of them...told me their names and about them...

where they live, go to school, etc.),

and had been talking about coming back next weekend, 

and getting a room at the Eden Rock, 

so we could get to know each other better, 

and then in July (my birthday month), 

telling me about how Def Leopard, 

and other artists were coming to Chicago, 

and could I come!?  

(I used to love Def Leopard!)

A trip was coming up with his company to Rome...(in August)

He wanted to know if I wanted to go with him!?

He said that  it is so hard that all these traveling opportunities come up, and he has to go alone...

And maybe when my rental agreement is up in August, 

I'd want to move to his apartment in Brickell!?

He asked me: "Could you see that happening???"

I couldn't give him a straight answer on anything...I mean after all...

I just met this guy an hour ago!!

Told him "we'd have to see..."

Anyway, the picture above is a picture of me carrying my leftovers home they packed up for me.  Fortunately, I was close enough to walk, and the restaurant, Coco Bambu, gave me a $180 gift card to cover the charge I paid for, (without tax/tip), because they felt so bad, 

they said, but someone had to pay for it.

I understood.

I was thinking...what was my alternative??

The idea of me racing out of the restaurant, as he had, brought a small smile to my face.

Anyway, that is why it is nice doing business with my neighbors...and I got some good material for my blog tonight...I don't know what you can learn from it, except beware...

people aren't always what they seem...

(I have been dating 10 years, but this one still took me by surprise.)

How much did this lesson, and blog material cost me? $234.09

Thankful at least something good came from it.

Will Muguire's final text: "Flight leaves an hour, thanks again for dinner, very nice of you."