What am I looking for?

This is a question that I am repeatedly asked.

Yesterday I saw something on Facebook that said that Cancers, that is my birth-sign, on the cusp of Leo, July 21st, often only have 1 "problem" in life, and that is with love.

Wow. I thought this was amazingly spot on...in my life.

I am so fortunate in so many ways, and so thankful, but the only thing that I have ever struggled with is finding my "soul-mate"...the biggest un-answered question that I have is:
...is there a soul-mate out there for EVERYONE???
...And if so: Where is mine???

After college, and subsequently after my car accident, all of my priorities changed.  Until then, I always felt I wanted to go into entertainment...to be famous...a singer or actress...I didn't know for sure...just wanted to be famous.

However, after I barely escaped with my life, following a car accident, all of my priorities changed.  Then, I realized that what was important in life is only FAMILY...those who are in my life are what make it special...I REALLY wanted kids.  Had never been "in love" before, and still haven't been in love with someone who is "in love" with me.

Met a great man, who I loved, but was not "in love" with at the age of 23...my Dad always told me to find a man with blond hair and blue eyes to marry, because this is the "superior gene."  HA! Well, I found him!  And he seemed to really be "in love" with ME.  And, I had decided that marriage is a "choice"...this is why arranged marriages work...because I still believe that a marriage will work as long as both parties CHOOSE to be married to each other.

So, we got engaged 6 months after meeting and married just 2.5 months after that.  He was then 30, and didn't think he'd ever get married, he said, until he'd met me.  This marriage ended 17 years and 4 beautiful girls later...because, basically, we chose to not be married anymore.  It was a good run, though, and we are still friends today.

Now, I've been single for 8 years, and the question remains: What am I looking for??

I have thought about this a lot.
I have also learned that one does not get what she wants...until she asks for it.
So here goes:
Usually, I am physically attracted to a man who is:
                                    (we cannot help or change what we are attracted to...right???)
Tall (5'11-6'4)
Smart (really... like super smart...good speller!)
Hair ( I like running my fingers thru a full head of hair)
Athletic (reasonably good shape)
Active (doesn't watch much tv, because I don't)
Open (no secrets)
Honest
Ages 43-53 (Ideally, in 2017)
Successful
Traveler
Healthy (non-smoker, non drugs)
Adventurer
Someone who has worked hard, and is ready to enjoy and share his life.
Family man (Father)
Happy
Positive
City, High-rise condo dweller
Water, outdoors lover
Prefers to drive in a car or be driven in a car (as opposed to a truck)

Of course there are always additions to this list and exceptions.

However, the most important thing that is not on this list is that :

                                       I am looking for someone who is looking for me.