Friendship VS Romance VS True Love
Interesting turn of events the other night.
I didn't write about my experience right away, because felt like I had been told a lot of private information, and wasn't sure I could even share, but then decided this is BeingTracy not Being Someone else, so you just need to know what happened to me...not what happened to him or his family.
I have been exhausted from traveling for work 4 of the last 5 weekends, so after my 1.5 hour massage on Monday, and then riding my bicycle home in the rain, I really hadn't planned on anymore activity.
Then as I lay in bed early evening in my pajamas, alone at home, and my sister called me to go over work, I started to get energized, talking to her. So, after hanging up the phone, I text my friends to find out where they were, one text me back and said he was headed to Southpoint Tavern, a favorite local South Beach hangout.
I called a car to go over there, and see what was going on, to kill some time before bed, but as I was waiting for it...a familiar face came up to me, and said "Hi, Tracy." I assessed that he must live in my building...we must have talked before because he knows my name!
Then he walked around me, and said it again, Hi, Tracy...he reminded me that he had given me his phone number, but I had never called. Now I remember....
(he had asked for my number and instead I took his)
He asked what I was doing tonight, and I, honestly, told him that I wasn't sure, but I think I'm going to meet some friends...he offered a better idea: "Would I like to go to Bal Harbor (a little more upscale than South Beach), and get dinner and drinks?" Wow! This was such a nice invitation, and from a guy that I wasn't sure I wanted to go out with:
1) he is visibly younger than me (35) ...prefer closer to my own age (40's-low 50's)
2) hair (go-t on the face...not really attracted to facial hair...villains in fairy-tales have go-t's
...I'm just saying!)
3) feels like he is just a little taller than me (I'm attracted to much taller men)
Although he was sharply dressed, with a perfectly groomed look, which I AM attracted to, and I really had no plans... this sounded really fun, and will give me a chance to meet this guy who clearly wanted to meet me.
So, we went down in the garage to get in his Lexus. And immediately, he starts re-telling me how we met: (a couple of times) He admitted he saw me getting my package from the concierge in our building, (He said that he was immediately smitten), and he waited by the door, so we could each take the elevator together. Told me he thinks I look "exotic," "more beautiful than any woman he has ever seen." Wow, I'm not sure I look exotic, but this guy is either really a good flatterer or this is a really big complement. Either way, nice to hear!! The whole way to the restaurant told me what he was attracted to about me.
Then he shared a bit more about him, and his family. They are from Cuba, and have a lot of old money...sounds like...big into investments made years ago by his mother and late father. Sounded like the whole family has big money due activities by the late-Dad above or below the law, and their may have been some mafia-like activity involved.
Seems like a pretty genuine guy. His phone rang with business all night. He kept repeating to me that it is all about what you do now that will make a difference in the future...also gave me tips for increasing my credit rating...said his was like 860, which he didn't know, but mine is close to 800, which isn't bad. Seemed to be very knowledgeable about life, as well as finances. Impressive, but he told me also enough scary stuff, which made me feel like I should be warned of what his "family" is or was capable of many years before.
While watching and listening to this young determined and passionate man, who was asking, continuously, if he could kiss my hand as he was driving, I was remembering a conversation I had with one of my girlfriends the other night. She said that she believes that money can buy love. Now, while impressed by all this, and considering the alternative, I remain firm with my belief that I disagree. Money is definitely attractive...I am waiting for my soul-mate to find me! I don't believe that my soul-mate would be poor!! But, to me, there needs to be much more than just power and a heavy wallet, which this guy seemed to have both, at a young age.
When he found out I love seafood, though, he changed directions, without telling me, I noticed that we were no longer headed to Bal Harbor...he had decided to take me to Hollywood to Billy's Crab Shack, since Joe's Crab Shack is closed due to the season til October 13th, I'm now told.
What a nice surprise!! A little further away than I had planned to go, but really appreciated his energy, and desire to treat me to something special!!
As encouraged, I had to get the fresh crab claws, not the frozen ones, and they were amazing!! And I have to say the ambiance was more for my taste than Joe's...much warmer...more romantic, if you are attuned to that...which I wasn't feeling it.
However, After dinner, and one double Kettle 1 vodka, and a long weekend behind me, when he asked me if I'd like another drink, I declined. Then, he wanted to confirm that I would go to The Forge with him tonight (2 nights later, said Wednesdays and Fridays are the best time to go there).
I told him that I would, but didn't think that I wanted what he wants out of our relationship, as he kept asking me to kiss his ear, and I kept asking him to concentrate on his driving. He kept telling me that nobody has to know what happens between us...like that would make a difference!!
And then, when we got back to our building, and rode in the elevator together to our condos, I also declined his invitation to visit his apartment, which is up just a couple more floors than me.
Then once inside mine, and already in bed, I noticed a call come in from him on my already silenced phone, that I did not answer. I remembered my guy friend telling me that no call after hours is going to contain information that is necessary to hear!!
So here it is, Wednesday night, and no call confirming The Forge tonight. I guess my friendship with this man was not enough. I completely understand, and agree. No sense in wasting my time or his on a nice dinner with someone who has already been clear they are not into you for more than a friend, when more is actually what you want.
I didn't write about my experience right away, because felt like I had been told a lot of private information, and wasn't sure I could even share, but then decided this is BeingTracy not Being Someone else, so you just need to know what happened to me...not what happened to him or his family.
I have been exhausted from traveling for work 4 of the last 5 weekends, so after my 1.5 hour massage on Monday, and then riding my bicycle home in the rain, I really hadn't planned on anymore activity.
Then as I lay in bed early evening in my pajamas, alone at home, and my sister called me to go over work, I started to get energized, talking to her. So, after hanging up the phone, I text my friends to find out where they were, one text me back and said he was headed to Southpoint Tavern, a favorite local South Beach hangout.
I called a car to go over there, and see what was going on, to kill some time before bed, but as I was waiting for it...a familiar face came up to me, and said "Hi, Tracy." I assessed that he must live in my building...we must have talked before because he knows my name!
Then he walked around me, and said it again, Hi, Tracy...he reminded me that he had given me his phone number, but I had never called. Now I remember....
(he had asked for my number and instead I took his)
He asked what I was doing tonight, and I, honestly, told him that I wasn't sure, but I think I'm going to meet some friends...he offered a better idea: "Would I like to go to Bal Harbor (a little more upscale than South Beach), and get dinner and drinks?" Wow! This was such a nice invitation, and from a guy that I wasn't sure I wanted to go out with:
1) he is visibly younger than me (35) ...prefer closer to my own age (40's-low 50's)
2) hair (go-t on the face...not really attracted to facial hair...villains in fairy-tales have go-t's
...I'm just saying!)
3) feels like he is just a little taller than me (I'm attracted to much taller men)
Although he was sharply dressed, with a perfectly groomed look, which I AM attracted to, and I really had no plans... this sounded really fun, and will give me a chance to meet this guy who clearly wanted to meet me.
So, we went down in the garage to get in his Lexus. And immediately, he starts re-telling me how we met: (a couple of times) He admitted he saw me getting my package from the concierge in our building, (He said that he was immediately smitten), and he waited by the door, so we could each take the elevator together. Told me he thinks I look "exotic," "more beautiful than any woman he has ever seen." Wow, I'm not sure I look exotic, but this guy is either really a good flatterer or this is a really big complement. Either way, nice to hear!! The whole way to the restaurant told me what he was attracted to about me.
Then he shared a bit more about him, and his family. They are from Cuba, and have a lot of old money...sounds like...big into investments made years ago by his mother and late father. Sounded like the whole family has big money due activities by the late-Dad above or below the law, and their may have been some mafia-like activity involved.
Seems like a pretty genuine guy. His phone rang with business all night. He kept repeating to me that it is all about what you do now that will make a difference in the future...also gave me tips for increasing my credit rating...said his was like 860, which he didn't know, but mine is close to 800, which isn't bad. Seemed to be very knowledgeable about life, as well as finances. Impressive, but he told me also enough scary stuff, which made me feel like I should be warned of what his "family" is or was capable of many years before.
While watching and listening to this young determined and passionate man, who was asking, continuously, if he could kiss my hand as he was driving, I was remembering a conversation I had with one of my girlfriends the other night. She said that she believes that money can buy love. Now, while impressed by all this, and considering the alternative, I remain firm with my belief that I disagree. Money is definitely attractive...I am waiting for my soul-mate to find me! I don't believe that my soul-mate would be poor!! But, to me, there needs to be much more than just power and a heavy wallet, which this guy seemed to have both, at a young age.
When he found out I love seafood, though, he changed directions, without telling me, I noticed that we were no longer headed to Bal Harbor...he had decided to take me to Hollywood to Billy's Crab Shack, since Joe's Crab Shack is closed due to the season til October 13th, I'm now told.
I told him that I would, but didn't think that I wanted what he wants out of our relationship, as he kept asking me to kiss his ear, and I kept asking him to concentrate on his driving. He kept telling me that nobody has to know what happens between us...like that would make a difference!!
And then, when we got back to our building, and rode in the elevator together to our condos, I also declined his invitation to visit his apartment, which is up just a couple more floors than me.
Then once inside mine, and already in bed, I noticed a call come in from him on my already silenced phone, that I did not answer. I remembered my guy friend telling me that no call after hours is going to contain information that is necessary to hear!!
So here it is, Wednesday night, and no call confirming The Forge tonight. I guess my friendship with this man was not enough. I completely understand, and agree. No sense in wasting my time or his on a nice dinner with someone who has already been clear they are not into you for more than a friend, when more is actually what you want.
"goatee" "compliment" "Ketel 1"
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