Surprising Afternoon Then Evening With A Yachtsman X

I met a great guy yesterday.
It is my birthday weekend.  I had no plans, until my actual birthday, which is Sunday.

So, I sent my "Birthday email," which I send every year to my client base with THE AMERICAN CHIROPRACTOR MAGAZINE to let them know I'm alive, and made it another year!  As I am responding to responses, I am also thinking about what I am going to do on Friday night of my 51st birthday weekend!  I ate a couple pieces of leftover steak and cheese covered cauliflower from the night before.  Then I checked out a dating app that I don't often go to, just to see who had responded to my profile, and right at the top there was a young kid's picture...not even a really attractive kid, I might add.

Normally, I wouldn't even read this message, but I had only received two messages, and this one was at the top, so I did.  I guess I missed his first message.

Message 1:  (July 15th, 7:40pm, a week ago)  "Love your photo on fisher island ferry!  I keep my boat about 600 degrees east of where that photo was taken, you may have passed me!"

Message 2:  (July 18 10:18pm, the day before)  "Also, I forgot to mention, I love your taste in shoes!"

Hmmm...he likes my shoes?  I thought I needed to read on.  So, I looked at the rest of his pictures, and read his profile.  Only one picture seemed to be a reasonably attractive guy ( a little shorter than I ideally like), but the other picture looked like it might be of a boat...a big boat.  I had really been hoping for an opportunity to go out on a boat sometime soon!

Yachtsman said he was "making payroll," planned to go on the boat this afternoon, which he'd said was nearby me, and asked if I'd had lunch.  I told him not much, just a little leftover, so he invited me to lunch.

When he picked me up, he had no idea where to take me.  Suggested a mall somewhere, and my response was:  "a mall??  Well, sure, whatever you want."  I am not a big mall girl, but I remembered there is a new one near here with like a good food court that I'd been to with my daughter.

I guess from my response, he thought he'd better do better than that, because he ended up taking me to the Ice Box near Purdy Ave in South Beach.  I believe he called the area "Sunset Harbor."  Like I said, I wasn't that hungry, so I just ordered a soup, and he ordered a wrap, and agreed to split some lettuce wraps with me.  He was Persian.  He was attractive in a hairy, sweaty way.  It has been extremely hot in Miami Beach recently, and the more time we spent outside I was getting sweaty too!

When he picked me up in a T-shirt, shorts, & gym shoes, and I came out in a dress, he apologized, and said that he "never expected to meet anyone today."  He had told me he was wearing shorts before he picked me up, but I always wear dresses, and especially on my birthday weekend, I planned to.  However, I DID choose a dress that would be boat-ready in case this meeting went very well, and afterward he invited me to his boat!  However, since he did mention that he liked my shoes, I had to wear good shoes!!

We seemed to have a good rapport and enjoyable conversation.  Then, all of the sudden Yachtsman said that the BMW he picked me up in was just a loaner car, and that his car was finished at the car dealership, and that he'd like to go pick it up.  So, after lunch, he invited me to see his boat, but also wanted to go get his car...said he "hates" driving the BMW.

Yachtsman asked what we should do first?  I was having fun, and told him that whatever he decided, I was with him!  So first, we went to his boat docked in some very elite area near Fisher Island with a big gate, and like only 2 other huge yachts.  Then, he pulled up and talked to the gatesman, who clearly new him, as they exchanged pleasantries, and the man said, "ok, so you want to visit your boat?" As he was opening the gate.

I was listening, and watching everything carefully, because a couple weeks ago, at Monty's thru a friend, I met another guy with a 65 ft yacht, "3 staterooms," went on 5 dates, (never was intimate with him,) never actually SAW the boat, and later found he had a yacht, but it was really old, and the guy ended up having a girlfriend!  He disappeared after I wouldn't approve him "staying at my place a couple times a week!!" (last conversation)  I wrote that blog, but felt it was too depressing to post!!  I felt I needed to step back from that experience before actually posting...I'll post it someday.

I'm sure it is a coincidence that the towels and bed linens I just bought for my new apartment are an identical match with the green in this 130 ft yacht picture!!  LOL😂

Anyway, this guy seemed to be all that he said he was.  Very impressive.  He showed me pictures of the Air Show recently on Memorial Day, where his 130 Ft yacht was used as sort of a directory for the planes in the middle of the water!!  I remember seeing his big boat down in the water, as I was watching the air show!!!  I told him that my criteria for going out in a boat has always been that it needs to have a bathroom.  He told me, "Well, this one has 11."  

Believe it or not, I didn't bring my cell phone, and so I waited while he wrote some payroll checks to his crew, but he seemed to like taking my picture, and so sent me a few.  As he gave me the grand tour, he made me count the bathrooms!!  Also, showed me the three kitchens on board, as well as all the crew cabins, as well as state rooms, huge closets.  Unreal. Yachtsman said this is a very expensive boat to take out because of all the crew needed.  Last time he took it out was on 4th of July, 50 people, including the President of Puerto Rico.  Seemed that the crew cleaned all the refrigerators and cupboards out of all the food and WATER, after the last trip, which he didn't mind, but we were getting severely dehydrated, and needed to find some!

Yachtsman also has 3 daughters, (I have 4) oldest is the same age as mine, 26, but the youngest is 16 and going to school at Harvard.  She clearly got his gene, because he said he never finished high school, and went straight to college, at age 14, and later also got a Master's Degree.  His ex-wife is his lawyer, and they were married 19 years, and still friends.  I like this.  I think this means a lot about your character...how you relate to your ex's.  

Yachtsman has been single 3 years.  This is also good, over the 2-year cap, but not sure about whether he ever wants to get married again or not...I loved being married...belonging to someone...would love to find someone whom I'd love to marry again.

So after the 130 ft. yacht, we went to get his car.  A Rolls Royce, Phantom, (convertible)...honestly the most beautiful color of bright blue that I had ever seen.  (the picture doesn't do it justice.  Yachtsman said there are only 2 in the world this color.  I have never seen a car like this before!!  I told him, "you don't see a lot of these in Indiana, where I am from!! 😂There were umbrellas ($2200 each, he said, if you loose 'em) on each side, which appear when you open the door, which opens backwards!!!  It took getting used to, but in a fun way!!  On our way to the car dealership, he stopped at another boat yard, which he told me he owned, and asked the guard at the gate to give us a couple of waters.  Then we proceeded on.

After car pick up, we were both hungry.  He suggested we go to get something sweet.  I said no.  "I don't like sweet."  He convincingly said that there is this amazing delicious mexican ice cream place nearby where we can just get one popsicle to share.  I agreed, reluctantly.

And I have to say the white chocolate popsicle at Cielito in Midtown Miami, with almonds on top was amazing!!!  As we were walking out, I commented that this was the perfect 1st date, with such an interesting change from Happy Hour on Fridays to a POPSICLE to share!!  Unbelievable.  This guy is very different.  Isn't a big drinker, but DID order a spiced lemonade at lunch...I followed suit.  Doesn't really drink red wine nor tequila nor beer, and doesn't sound like a real "people person," which is very unlike me, but I liked him, and we were having fun.

Next, Yachtsman asked me what we were going to do.  He didn't want to go anywhere with a lot of people, and he seemed to like the boat life.  So I suggested we go back out on one of his other boats that he mentioned that we wouldn't need crew, and could just take out by ourselves.  On our way back to the boats that he had docked in Coral Gables, he stopped at a convenience store, and said we were going to get "snacks!"  I realized that I have been so mis-treated, by those I've dated, when I realized that I had expected to be the one PAYING FOR THE SNACKS.  He got water, then asked me what next.  I suggested wine, and cheese.  He loves cheese, he said, and will drink wine with me.  He asked me to pick out 2 bottles of wine.  So, I took my time and picked a Chiante (that he liked!), and cabernet (that he let me bring home), and 2 cheeses.

I asked for plastic wear, when Yachtsman said the boat would not be stocked, and asked if he had a wine opener on board, so the next stop he made was to buy a wine opener!  

Wow, this guy was really a gentleman.

Finally, we made it to the Coral Gables docks, where he said he had 2 boats docked.  First one was 80 ft, and 2nd one was 50 ft, which is the one that we would be taking out.  When we got there, he told me he did not have a key to get in to the boats, but after he found a security guard, and proved who he was, and his yachts...they opened the gate for us.  Yachtsman had not been out in the yacht since March, so he noted that it was very dirty.

We put our bags of cheese and wine near the 50 ft. boat, and he pulled me over to another boat.  He said he wanted to show me the 80 footer first.  Yachtsman said this was the first big boat he bought, so he is kind of sentimental, although he rarely uses it, doesn't want to let it go.  Yachtsman has done many things in his career, and at one time, he built and designed yachts!!

As we started down the dock to his boat, and I realized that it was the biggest yacht on the dock that was his boat, I was in complete disbelief.  Yachtsman asked me, "What?"  I just told him that I couldn't believe that is his boat at the end of the dock too!

So, I toured this beautiful boat, and then we went back to the smaller 50 ft boat that would need no crew, and we "could have privacy."  Yachtsman wiped it down with a towel that he found on board, then helped me open the wine and cheese, once we got into the open water.

We drove and drove, (mostly very slowly), and talked and laughed and kissed, held each other, until I wasn't sure where we were driving nor what we would DO when we got to the "light-house."  Well, it turns out, you go sit on the front of the boat...or lay, and talk, and kiss, and rest, and enjoy the perfect temperature, and perfect night.

Yachtsman told me that he thinks he's been dreaming of me, as he'd been waiting for my reply, and had seen my pictures on the dating site.  After an hour or 2, I told him that I was tired, and wanted to get back.  He said he was only sorry that he hadn't "seen me naked, but maybe next time?"

He told me the above picture is the one that I needed to take...because in real life, it was so beautiful...the back of the boat & water.

 I told him that this wasn't going to be like the Uber trip from Orlando, "where the pretty driver showed you her "boobs" or I was thinking that maybe there is a reason why in the past 3 years, he has "only had first dates."  

Yachtsman had told me that he really felt like so many women at our age are so "needy...like why haven't you answered back, when I can see you've read my message!?"

I get that too, but from men, and it's stressful!!

No rush.  Taking things slow.  We'll see if anything develops.  Yachtsman said he wanted to see me again today.  It will be my birthday at midnight.  He is 47, and I will be 51.  No expectations.  Grateful for a great day, and Yachtsman is charming.  

It would be nice to have more, but let's just see what happens.