TOO NICE...ME???
It happened to me again yesterday.
A woman who watched me said I am "too nice."
Why? Because I had invited a man who had invited me a few times out, to join us at the Mondrian pool, and after I did, and he came, bought us a couple of drinks, but then seemed mesmerized in the pool for a moment. We aren't dating. The perimeters of our relationship haven't really been set. Though we had kind of a quick kiss on the lips one time.
When my friend asked him what he was staring at, he responded that it was the woman in the "red bathing suit." We all looked over to see a bodacious babe in her 20's or 30's sprawled out on a float in a red thong. Tight fanny in the air. This was just after the woman with us said that she liked Russian Women...to which this guy said that he did too!
So then the woman said, "let's go over and talk to her!"
I had no inclination to go talk to the other woman on the raft.
And wasn't really sure now WHAT, if anything, this guy was to me...
I can tell you today that he has put himself in my "friend zone."
I guess they felt that my departure from the pool and the float we had all been talking over and about was abrupt, so shortly after I got out of the pool, they both did too. He asked if he could buy me another drink, and then we all left, and me and my friends did something, but without the guy.
Last time I was called "too nice," it was because a guy whom I had known for years, but never really had anything with, because he lived in Delray, (apparently he felt too far), had said he was going to drive over and see me from where he now lives in Boca Raton, (Sunday), but then as always happens, he is never able to make the trip. However, this time, he started making up a story about how he had come to visit "Friends in a hotel in South Beach," but had only stayed 1 hour or less, because it was too "muggy and loud," and so was unable to see me while he was here. Clearly a fabricated story.
Why did he feel the need to lie, instead of just telling me for the umpteenth time that he had something better and closer to do where he lives? No idea.
Before that a couple weeks ago, other girlfriends called me "too nice," when a guy, who had been messaging and calling me for hours a day, from New Jersey, visited with me, as he had a condo in South Beach, after we shared a nice dinner together, and some other moments throughout the weekend, with no harsh words, sent me the following text:
It wasn't until I went to send him information on facebook messenger, as I'd found a great HGH product that I knew he'd be interested in(we had discussed this), the next day, that I realized that he had blocked me! Although, when I emailed him to tell him about this HGH product, and I wasn't sure why he'd felt so "threatened" by me that he felt the need to "block me," that he UNBLOCKED me, so I could send him the info on the HGH product, so he could get it for himself. Today, we are still friends on facebook, but I can tell you that is about as far as that relationship will be going from here on out.
Then, there also was the time before that, that a man who had been messaging me on and off for 3 years, finally wanted to meet me in person. He wanted to see me a month before when he was in Miami, but when I asked what he wanted to do, his response was "Make love all night long." He said that we knew each other, and had waited all this time, so this seemed logical to him!
I told him that sounded like a lot of pressure for a 1st date/ in person meeting, so that meeting never happened. I stopped responding to his texts.
A month later, he was visiting again from his home in Switzerland, and he changed his tune. Now sounded like he was more interested in a meeting, with something interesting to do. We agreed on an afternoon meeting in Miami, which was fine, but this man seemed purely driven by his need to have sex, rather than any desire to get to know me. Kept wanting to get me back to his hotel room with jacuzzi, so he could "smoke a cigar."
Uninterested, I returned home to South Beach, to meet my friends for dinner. Surprisingly, I realized that 1 of the 2 girls who my friend invited to dinner, also had a date with this SAME guy coming up while he was here, and had been chatting with him since he arrived, and he had requested to also see her immediately upon arrival!
So for all of these times, and more that men have been despicable and undesirable, women have accused me of being "too nice." Let me explain myself:
I am never going to let anyone steal my joy.
How they behave is merely a symptom of their character.
How I behave is a symptom of mine.
I am never going to spend too much of my valuable time
putting any one of these characters in their place.
I will just wish them well.
Be grateful for the journey, and the timely conclusion of it.😃
A woman who watched me said I am "too nice."
Why? Because I had invited a man who had invited me a few times out, to join us at the Mondrian pool, and after I did, and he came, bought us a couple of drinks, but then seemed mesmerized in the pool for a moment. We aren't dating. The perimeters of our relationship haven't really been set. Though we had kind of a quick kiss on the lips one time.
So then the woman said, "let's go over and talk to her!"
I had no inclination to go talk to the other woman on the raft.
And wasn't really sure now WHAT, if anything, this guy was to me...
I can tell you today that he has put himself in my "friend zone."
Last time I was called "too nice," it was because a guy whom I had known for years, but never really had anything with, because he lived in Delray, (apparently he felt too far), had said he was going to drive over and see me from where he now lives in Boca Raton, (Sunday), but then as always happens, he is never able to make the trip. However, this time, he started making up a story about how he had come to visit "Friends in a hotel in South Beach," but had only stayed 1 hour or less, because it was too "muggy and loud," and so was unable to see me while he was here. Clearly a fabricated story.
Why did he feel the need to lie, instead of just telling me for the umpteenth time that he had something better and closer to do where he lives? No idea.
"Hey
It was great spending time to know you. I'll be leaving tonight earlier than expected to tend to business. Too much going on. Nevertheless it was real fun and
looking forward to when I come in soon."
looking forward to when I come in soon."
It wasn't until I went to send him information on facebook messenger, as I'd found a great HGH product that I knew he'd be interested in(we had discussed this), the next day, that I realized that he had blocked me! Although, when I emailed him to tell him about this HGH product, and I wasn't sure why he'd felt so "threatened" by me that he felt the need to "block me," that he UNBLOCKED me, so I could send him the info on the HGH product, so he could get it for himself. Today, we are still friends on facebook, but I can tell you that is about as far as that relationship will be going from here on out.
Then, there also was the time before that, that a man who had been messaging me on and off for 3 years, finally wanted to meet me in person. He wanted to see me a month before when he was in Miami, but when I asked what he wanted to do, his response was "Make love all night long." He said that we knew each other, and had waited all this time, so this seemed logical to him!
I told him that sounded like a lot of pressure for a 1st date/ in person meeting, so that meeting never happened. I stopped responding to his texts.
A month later, he was visiting again from his home in Switzerland, and he changed his tune. Now sounded like he was more interested in a meeting, with something interesting to do. We agreed on an afternoon meeting in Miami, which was fine, but this man seemed purely driven by his need to have sex, rather than any desire to get to know me. Kept wanting to get me back to his hotel room with jacuzzi, so he could "smoke a cigar."
Uninterested, I returned home to South Beach, to meet my friends for dinner. Surprisingly, I realized that 1 of the 2 girls who my friend invited to dinner, also had a date with this SAME guy coming up while he was here, and had been chatting with him since he arrived, and he had requested to also see her immediately upon arrival!
So for all of these times, and more that men have been despicable and undesirable, women have accused me of being "too nice." Let me explain myself:
I am never going to let anyone steal my joy.
How they behave is merely a symptom of their character.
How I behave is a symptom of mine.
I am never going to spend too much of my valuable time
putting any one of these characters in their place.
I will just wish them well.
Be grateful for the journey, and the timely conclusion of it.😃
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