Dating apps...which one is BEST & will it work!? X
HAPPY SUNDAY!
Woke up to an overcast day over the Biscayne Bay in South Beach, Miami. Finally, I cleaned out the delicious Halloween cookies that I bought for my Halloween party the other night, so my diet can return to normal tomorrow, until I find the Halloween candy that I hid from myself.
A friend called at 1:30am last night, and asked to sleep on my couch...hence the blankets & pillow, and was gone by the time I awoke this morning...strange! No story...nothing.
Yesterday, someone whom I had connected with on a dating app, but never met, a few years ago, and has since moved, was in the area, and invited me out for drinks and a bite, so we could "finally meet." Seemed like a great guy. Military guy, so great shape, very educated. We seemed to have a great connection. I had a nice time, and he had managed to fit me in, as he just had a couple of hours to kill before he went to a birthday party for a friend, which is what brought him to my area.
Military guy told me that he didn't like being on the dating apps. I told him that I agree, but I figure that if we are single, and we want to be in a relationship that we are kind of like the man who fell into the ocean. A boat came by the man, and offered to send out a line to bring him in, and he said, "oh, no! That is alright. God is going to save me!" Then a helicopter came by and threw down a line to him, but still he refused, and said, "oh, NO! That is alright, because GOD is going to save me!!" Then an airplane flew over head, and slowed to a steady pace, offering to send down a rope that he could climb up, and still he said, "THANK YOU, but GOD is going to save me!!!"
Then the man drown, and he got up to heaven, in front of God, and said: "God, what happened?? I kept waiting for you to save me, and nothing happened!!!"
To which God replied, "What are you talking about!? I sent you a boat, then a helicopter, and then an airplane!!! You refused all of them!!!"
I feel like just like this man, we need to keep and use all of the services that are provided to help us connect, and find that special someone for us.
So, then, I have people contacting me to ask which dating service is the best?
Your guess is as good as mine!! I have heard of people finding love on many of them. Even Tinder, which really gets a bad wrap, but honestly, I believe tinder makes it the easiest to connect. You can find good people anywhere!!
Though, I must admit that I've always thought that a dating profile on Tinder that describes himself as "adventurous" is an oxymoron...it will keep your single-life interesting in the least!!
Some have more information, and cost money, like Match.com, which may attract more serious daters, but also sometimes I feel like there is TOO MUCH information, so that you can easily get lost in the communication, and never actually meet!!!
I don't usually offer too much advice. I figure we can all learn something, and I don't feel that anyone needs to tell anyone else what to do...unless asked. Truth is, no one has all of the answers, and we all can learn from each other's experiences, without judgement.
However, my feeling is that if you want to change your relationship status, you need to take advantage of all the ways that you can meet new people...join groups, go to Happy Hour, the pool, AND a dating app...or 2!
THEN, when you meet someone who you feel is different...maybe even SPECIAL, (and key component: THEY SEEM TO THINK THAT YOU ARE SPECIAL TOO), hide your profile or delete it, on the dating app, and give yourself a chance to see if and where the relationship will go.
Nothing will ruin your chances of a new relationship more than giving out the idea that you are still in search mode...I think sometimes people get addicted to the HUNT, and so then they never connect with anyone.
Remember what your purpose is on the dating app. No one wants to be a permanent fixture there.
I have been on them WAY longer than I want to be...or ever expected to be!!
Whenever someone asks how long I've been on the dating app:
My response: "TOO LONG"
Purpose: find what you need/want and then RELAX, move on, and ENJOY each other.💕
Woke up to an overcast day over the Biscayne Bay in South Beach, Miami. Finally, I cleaned out the delicious Halloween cookies that I bought for my Halloween party the other night, so my diet can return to normal tomorrow, until I find the Halloween candy that I hid from myself.
A friend called at 1:30am last night, and asked to sleep on my couch...hence the blankets & pillow, and was gone by the time I awoke this morning...strange! No story...nothing.
Yesterday, someone whom I had connected with on a dating app, but never met, a few years ago, and has since moved, was in the area, and invited me out for drinks and a bite, so we could "finally meet." Seemed like a great guy. Military guy, so great shape, very educated. We seemed to have a great connection. I had a nice time, and he had managed to fit me in, as he just had a couple of hours to kill before he went to a birthday party for a friend, which is what brought him to my area.
Military guy told me that he didn't like being on the dating apps. I told him that I agree, but I figure that if we are single, and we want to be in a relationship that we are kind of like the man who fell into the ocean. A boat came by the man, and offered to send out a line to bring him in, and he said, "oh, no! That is alright. God is going to save me!" Then a helicopter came by and threw down a line to him, but still he refused, and said, "oh, NO! That is alright, because GOD is going to save me!!" Then an airplane flew over head, and slowed to a steady pace, offering to send down a rope that he could climb up, and still he said, "THANK YOU, but GOD is going to save me!!!"
Then the man drown, and he got up to heaven, in front of God, and said: "God, what happened?? I kept waiting for you to save me, and nothing happened!!!"
To which God replied, "What are you talking about!? I sent you a boat, then a helicopter, and then an airplane!!! You refused all of them!!!"
I feel like just like this man, we need to keep and use all of the services that are provided to help us connect, and find that special someone for us.
So, then, I have people contacting me to ask which dating service is the best?
Your guess is as good as mine!! I have heard of people finding love on many of them. Even Tinder, which really gets a bad wrap, but honestly, I believe tinder makes it the easiest to connect. You can find good people anywhere!!
Though, I must admit that I've always thought that a dating profile on Tinder that describes himself as "adventurous" is an oxymoron...it will keep your single-life interesting in the least!!
Some have more information, and cost money, like Match.com, which may attract more serious daters, but also sometimes I feel like there is TOO MUCH information, so that you can easily get lost in the communication, and never actually meet!!!
I don't usually offer too much advice. I figure we can all learn something, and I don't feel that anyone needs to tell anyone else what to do...unless asked. Truth is, no one has all of the answers, and we all can learn from each other's experiences, without judgement.
However, my feeling is that if you want to change your relationship status, you need to take advantage of all the ways that you can meet new people...join groups, go to Happy Hour, the pool, AND a dating app...or 2!
THEN, when you meet someone who you feel is different...maybe even SPECIAL, (and key component: THEY SEEM TO THINK THAT YOU ARE SPECIAL TOO), hide your profile or delete it, on the dating app, and give yourself a chance to see if and where the relationship will go.
Nothing will ruin your chances of a new relationship more than giving out the idea that you are still in search mode...I think sometimes people get addicted to the HUNT, and so then they never connect with anyone.
Remember what your purpose is on the dating app. No one wants to be a permanent fixture there.
I have been on them WAY longer than I want to be...or ever expected to be!!
Whenever someone asks how long I've been on the dating app:
My response: "TOO LONG"
Purpose: find what you need/want and then RELAX, move on, and ENJOY each other.💕
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