THE SEQUEL: Boatsman not to be confused with Yachtsman

I received a surprising text in the afternoon yesterday, after I received a call from Boatsman that I chose not to answer.  I was very busy preparing the CHIROPRACTIC ASSISTANT MAGAZINE editorial memo for the October issue, and had not heard from this man in almost exactly 2 months.

Then he text me:  "Tracy, girl...

                              Please call me."

Then, he called me again, (realizing he wasn't going to give up)and this time I answered.

Boatsman was cheerful, (like no time had passed), and wanted to see me.

Wondered WHEN he could see me...wanted to "EXPLAIN."
He said that I had "harped" on the question if he was married, and no he is not.

Boatsman said he still had something ongoing with his "X" when we met at Monty's that he had to workout, but now FINALLY, it was OVER.

I had plans with a girlfriend that fell through, so it turned out that I was available.

Boatsman asked:  "Did you miss me??"

I said, "Well, let's see...you blatantly stood me up the last time we saw each other, so
                                             "NO, I did not miss you."

He said, "It's ok, I'm going to make it up to you."

His conversation was all full of familiar, endearing terms:  "Honey,"  "Sweetie"...
Like no time had passed.😐

His explanation was this:

Yes, he had lied to me when Katya called, because he didn't know what to say.

When he met me, "it wasn't a good time."

But he really liked me, and STILL really likes me...but at that time, he had given a $15,000 loan to this girl, and he couldn't completely END their relationship, until he got it back.

He retold me a story he had told me before about 1 night when she went out, and got drinks with a friend, and then came home at 11:30pm, put her receipt on the counter, which said she had gotten drinks at 6:30 pm, but she didn't return home until 11:30 pm.  So clearly, they live or lived together.  Is this the only story he has about why this relationship didn't work???

To me this sounds like a relationship ongoing that may be having trouble, but not a reason for one to end?  This is the only story he has about the end of their relationship that wasn't over last time he told me this story, but now it IS!?

"Do you forgive me??"  He repeated a couple of times, and finally, I told him that I did, but that I would just have to see how things go..."No promises.  No expectations.  No pressure."

Boatsman started planning our whole weekend together.

Starting with Friday at 5pm...whatever I wanted to do!!
He didn't ask me out...just started making plans with me for the weekend...like, of course, I had no other plans!

Anyway, we had a nice Happy Hour at a new restaurant for him, NaiYaRa, and the manager there, Sarah Percy(pictured on the left of me), who knew me, sent us not only an entree that she knew I liked, but also an appetizer, so in addition to the 3 drinks we each had, (2 Happy Hour wines for us both and a Martini finale), and a few Happy Hour apps he'd ordered, we had a lot of food...and he only had to pay for a portion of it, which still came to just under $100, I noticed.  (South beach prices)

Boatsman had a great time, though, said he loved this restaurant even more than the last one I took him to...which he'd asked to return, but he doesn't like to pay for parking, and the last time I had to talk to the owner, so the valet wouldn't charge him...  I didn't want to have to do that again.

Then, when it was time to go, it was pouring down rain outside, so, he offered to run and get the car out of the parking garage and come get me.  I thought this was very nice.  There was a nice girl at the front desk, who offered to wait with me outside with an umbrella, after he ran to get his car.  After he was gone for nearly 15 minutes, I received a call from him, sounding desperate and agitated.  He said that he had driven by a couple of times, and I had not been standing there!!  

I assured him that I was, and asked him for the make of the car again as I urgently looked at all of the cars going by in the rainstorm.  Boatsman said maybe he'd left the parking garage out of the wrong exit.  Then he started sounding like road rage was attacking him, as he was yelling and cussing at all of the cars around him to get out of his way!!!  I listened to him on the phone yell at all of the other drivers on the road for maybe 10 minutes.

Finally, he appeared, after the girl who had been holding the umbrella for me apologized, but said she had to go back in to work, and left me with the umbrella.  I then ran it back inside, and she followed me back out to his car with it, so I wouldn't get wet.

We drove back to my home, and he pulled in front of the building, and I hopped out & thanked him, without giving him a kiss/hug or any other kind of friendly gesture.  I just wasn't feeling it, and I guess he had hoped for more, because after all of the plans he had been telling me about for us that he'd had for this weekend, I never heard from Boatsman again after that.

Honestly, I wrote this blog at 3pm the next afternoon.  Boatsman still could have shown up at 5pm, but I knew he wasn't going to.  Going back over the conversation, I think he may still have a woman living on that yacht with him, or at least a girlfriend nearby...there weren't any invitations of going boating!!

When I met the Yachtsman from my other blog, and decided to write on him, I realized that I'd already had this character, whom I'd called "Boatsman," (I just hadn't published this blog then, because, for me, it was just so depressing to recall).  However, I realized that I couldn't call them BOTH Boatsman, however the one with the bigger boat at 120ft. got the title Yachtsman instead of Boatsman!  (see July 2019 the Yachtsman blog if you missed it)

As a follow up with Yachtsman, after I wrote that blog, I didn't hear from him for a week or 2, and then got a text when I was visiting my family in Indiana wanting to know again:  "where are you?  When will you be back?"  I told him, but then heard nothing from him after I returned, and then a few days later I sent him one simple text:  "Are you married?"

Never heard from Yachtsman again.

I guess I'm turning into a super-sleuth for married/attached guys!  Case in point!!

*I have learned that this is a common technique that unavailable guys use to get you to a more affectionate state quicker than normal...because they don't have much time to waste!!

CHECKLIST:
1)  Usually, they will identify you as somehow amazing...beyond all others.
2)  Plan your whole future together verbally in front of you, (example: Boatsman and I were talking to the manager about her upcoming trip to Greece, and he referred to taking me there soon & our dates all weekend long)
3) use affectionate names or titles, so that you will feel a super close relationship very early...
    *build trust

NEXT!