"Busy" Is A Choice...isn't it?
I met Mr. TooBusy on September 15th, shortly after my final date with Mr. Lexus.
I have this great financial opportunity right now with this new anti-aginging gel that I have discovered, so I decided I was going to just focus on that...only meet with people who had an interest in the gel. (send me a message for more information or go to: geltracy.com
...Decided enough with dating!!
A man that I encountered, as I was too pre-occupied to pay much attention to the men on my dating apps even asked me, "So, you are looking for a business partner... not a date?" To which I responded, "yes!"
Then, surprisingly, I got a message from a very handsome, 6'3 and distinguished looking dark haired man, Mr. TooBusy. He asked me a few questions, and we chatted a little bit over a 24 hour period, where at first, I had no desire to go out of my way to meet ANY man, unless he was interested in my gel! However, suddenly it started sounding like we had a lot in common.😃
Both athletic, age 50, enjoy activity, smart, educated, experienced in many things, avid cyclist, successful, multilingual(ok, I'm just bi-lingual, but still!), divorced (4yrs...that's over the 2 yr mark that made him dateable, and possible relationship material, as I've decided that people need at least 2 years after a long relationship for a new one), loves wine and fine dining, travel...yada yada yada...He said "Tracy, this sounds like a match!" I agreed, and we decided to meet later Saturday afternoon, when Friday night didn't work out.
He picked me up in a Porsche...told me he paid $35,000 for it from a client who needed to sell it. I found this refreshingly open that he was sharing this with me. He said he found out it was worth $50,000, so he bought it! (Another thing we had in common, we both like good deals.) It was now his 2nd car, he said. His first was a 2010, Audi convertible, 1st owner, which still, I thought, looked really nice. Next, he told me that he wanted to get a boat, and then showed me on the water the type he'd like to get...another match! (likes a sleep-able boat with a bathroom) He kept telling me that he had a "Sweetheart Deal," a couple times, we talked about how much we pay for rent, because his is so low. I thought this was so cute. (English is not Mr. TooBusy's first language, but he speaks it so well.)
I noted he liked older cars, and I like new cars, but can't really complain when the older cars are both convertibles, and still look new! I told myself to remember how in Panama no one has a new car!! This guy is European...probably the same thing...only in the US, we think we have to always get a new car every 3 years?!
Our first meeting, he took me to Brickell, La Centrale, for wine and cheese, which was very nice. I noticed he had a few teeth overlapping, and altho I am usually a fan of good dental work, this man was so handsome, I decided it made up for the imperfect teeth, which I stopped noticing, because I was mesmerized by his blue eyes, smile and lean muscular body.
Mr. TooBusy introduced me to the European Chef there, and showed me around all 3 floors of the restaurant. I found this sweet and considerate, that he cared about showing me the place. The chef was a younger guy, and his friend for years they told me. He said he had some kind of chef meeting for a possible job at 6pm, which he ended up saying that it was cancelled. But I think he had a date, that he cancelled, as noticed him tilting the phone slightly, so I couldn't see him confirming the "meeting" about a job he'd told me about by text.
Finally, I saw a chat come in from Isabella saying, "I understand." And altho all the photos on his phone that he was showing me had pictures of his family, were photos of food (he is a Hungarian/German Chef), I did see the last one was of him and a woman, like at a dinner. It was on his phone twice...like she had sent it to him, and he had saved it...just before we met. Noted. There may be another woman that he is dating. (at least one...I could see no other photos on his phone of women...yeah, I looked as best I could...over his shoulder.
After a couple hours there, we decided to go somewhere else to watch the sunset. We got lost in the parking lot looking for his Porsche for about an hour and a half...which still makes me chuckle remembering it! Hilarious!! He was dripping sweat from the heat of the search, and said that he'd just like to go back to my place and sit on the balcony. Ok, so now that we had met, and he was clearly too sweaty to go anywhere, I agreed.
Mr. TooBusy came back to my apartment, and after going over all the appropriate conduct in my head of staying fully clothed on the first date, I told him to take off his clothes, so that I could wash them for him. (I was feeling domestic...it comes in spurts)😂
I would have to say that I have never felt as much of a connection, as I did with this man. He was very authoritative, but also protective, with confidence. This is exactly the kind of man that I hope is looking for me! And he seemed to be! Again, it's irresistible when a man is totally into me!!
Told me he thought I was "perfect," loved my legs, and the shapeliness of them...said it was from riding my bicycle...Did I tell you he was a pro-cyclist until an injury in 1987? Also said he is "SO PICKY!!" So am I! He loved it that I've been single for at least 10 years,(I lost count, seems like I've been saying 10 for at least another year now)with no real relationship over 2 months. Mr. TooBusy said usually he didn't date women under 5'6 ( I am only 5'2), but he thought that I was "absolutely gorgeous," and he spelled gorgeous correctly! YAY!!💘 (so far so good)
However, he was in an occupation that I know very well. He is a private chef, and the consultant for many kitchens around Miami. My ex-husband had restaurants and was also a chef. In my marriage, as long as we lived in Naples, FL, I was a 1-man show. Exactly the same kind of personality. I'm not sure if it is the occupation or the success driven personality that I am drawn to...wait, I KNOW it is the success driven personality that I'm drawn to, but I keep thinking, there has to be BALANCE.
He told me ON OUR FIRST DATE, that we are coming upon "season," when there will be times that I won't see him, and he told me, "you will think there is another woman, and there won't be...it's just that I get so busy!!"
At first the only thing that I could see that we didn't have in common was his love of cooking(he kept saying that I was going to have to start cooking😕...didn't think it was funny, (I thought it was hilarious)😂 that he found my pots and pans in the oven, as he was opening it and asking, "so have you ever opened this??" (After I had just bought over $100 of pots and pans for HIM to use!!!), his appreciation for older cars, (well, let's face it, an older Porsche still is a PORSCHE!), and his desire to have the thermostat at 75 degrees and above (I love to have it cold)...eh, ok we can deal with this ...right? I can get accustomed to feeling a bit sweaty in my home...if he's there!? But I just had to figure out how not to sweat!!
So, over the course of 18 days, I saw this man 3 long visits. During the course of the week, Mr. TooBusy would text me, but never call me, and though his texts were always very sweet, like "thinking of you💋"
They were also pretty short, and quick like, "Hi baby, sorry, just so freaking busy😐"
As the first text of the day at 5pm. I guess he was "sorry," because he had told me on our last date that he'd like to see me in the middle of the week a couple of times?
Never a 😊...always😐 However, he also told me he loved being as busy as he was ...and loved what
he did!
I noticed after our 2nd date, that his profile became hidden on the dating app where we met. I was pleased, and hid mine as well. Deleted all dating apps from my phone, and there were a few!!😂
I decided I was "all in." I think the problem with the dating apps is that when you find one who you have a great connection with, it can get to be a distraction if you don't stop LOOKING. This man seemed to be everything that I would like to add to my life, and we had an AMAZING connection.
We never went outside of my apartment, since our 1st date, except the 2nd date when he took me to Costco, after he said he was going to cook for me, but I admitted that I didn't even have salt and pepper. I remember now, the 1st date he also wanted to bring over a bottle of wine, except that I told him I wouldn't be home!! I am not going to have a 1st date at home with ANYONE. After our 1st date, he always told me that he was so "exhausted" and wanted to just be home with me. He didn't like crowds, and didn't want notoriety. Cooks for famous people, privately, signs confidentiality agreements, so couldn't tell me whom, but had no inclination to be famous himself. However, to me, he looked amazing, like a famous chef, and acted like one.
I understood. I lived this for 13 of my 17 married years, with my husband, a Chef, in the restaurant business. Mr. TooBusy and I talked about vacations. Well, he can't take a vacation now. He can't take a vacation over the holidays. He can't go away with me for the weekend December 7th...as that is too short of notice!! I reminded him it is 2 months away!! Mr.TooBusy said, "well, that is during Art Basel."
UGH. Then I started asking myself, as I am sure he did too...is this still a "fit?"
Is this the life that I want to live again?
Where my partner is too busy to be with me during the week or during special times??
When I was younger, I had young kids to take care of, so being married to a restaurant entrepreneur was do-able. Still, I had told Mr. TooBusy:
"Busy is ok right now, because I am busy building my new business too!"
geltracy.com
Then, I woke up in the middle of the night, and picked up my computer and opened it on my lap in bed, and as tho it was a message from the Universe, it opened to the dating app where I had met Mr. Toobusy. I had wondered if he had un-hid his profile after our conversation the day before, where we were both left feeling empty, I'd say, because I had things that I wanted a partner to share with me, and he was unavailable. I hadn't checked this app in weeks since I hid it. So strange that it opened right up like that for me!!
So, I went to his profile, and sure enough it was unhid.
So, I followed suit. Un-hid mine, looked at his (knowing he would be notified)
And updated a couple of pictures.
The top picture here is now my profile picture.
Thing is, we only have time for the things that are really important to us.
Don't we?
Life is too short.
If there is anything I've learned, it's that if something is REALLY important to you,
You'll make time for it.
So, with that, I'm grateful for my time with Mr. TooBusy, and I'm getting closer to the relationship of my dreams, and maybe this could be it in the future, but clearly right now, it is not.💗
I have this great financial opportunity right now with this new anti-aginging gel that I have discovered, so I decided I was going to just focus on that...only meet with people who had an interest in the gel. (send me a message for more information or go to: geltracy.com
...Decided enough with dating!!
A man that I encountered, as I was too pre-occupied to pay much attention to the men on my dating apps even asked me, "So, you are looking for a business partner... not a date?" To which I responded, "yes!"
Then, surprisingly, I got a message from a very handsome, 6'3 and distinguished looking dark haired man, Mr. TooBusy. He asked me a few questions, and we chatted a little bit over a 24 hour period, where at first, I had no desire to go out of my way to meet ANY man, unless he was interested in my gel! However, suddenly it started sounding like we had a lot in common.😃
Both athletic, age 50, enjoy activity, smart, educated, experienced in many things, avid cyclist, successful, multilingual(ok, I'm just bi-lingual, but still!), divorced (4yrs...that's over the 2 yr mark that made him dateable, and possible relationship material, as I've decided that people need at least 2 years after a long relationship for a new one), loves wine and fine dining, travel...yada yada yada...He said "Tracy, this sounds like a match!" I agreed, and we decided to meet later Saturday afternoon, when Friday night didn't work out.
He picked me up in a Porsche...told me he paid $35,000 for it from a client who needed to sell it. I found this refreshingly open that he was sharing this with me. He said he found out it was worth $50,000, so he bought it! (Another thing we had in common, we both like good deals.) It was now his 2nd car, he said. His first was a 2010, Audi convertible, 1st owner, which still, I thought, looked really nice. Next, he told me that he wanted to get a boat, and then showed me on the water the type he'd like to get...another match! (likes a sleep-able boat with a bathroom) He kept telling me that he had a "Sweetheart Deal," a couple times, we talked about how much we pay for rent, because his is so low. I thought this was so cute. (English is not Mr. TooBusy's first language, but he speaks it so well.)
I noted he liked older cars, and I like new cars, but can't really complain when the older cars are both convertibles, and still look new! I told myself to remember how in Panama no one has a new car!! This guy is European...probably the same thing...only in the US, we think we have to always get a new car every 3 years?!
Our first meeting, he took me to Brickell, La Centrale, for wine and cheese, which was very nice. I noticed he had a few teeth overlapping, and altho I am usually a fan of good dental work, this man was so handsome, I decided it made up for the imperfect teeth, which I stopped noticing, because I was mesmerized by his blue eyes, smile and lean muscular body.
Mr. TooBusy introduced me to the European Chef there, and showed me around all 3 floors of the restaurant. I found this sweet and considerate, that he cared about showing me the place. The chef was a younger guy, and his friend for years they told me. He said he had some kind of chef meeting for a possible job at 6pm, which he ended up saying that it was cancelled. But I think he had a date, that he cancelled, as noticed him tilting the phone slightly, so I couldn't see him confirming the "meeting" about a job he'd told me about by text.
Finally, I saw a chat come in from Isabella saying, "I understand." And altho all the photos on his phone that he was showing me had pictures of his family, were photos of food (he is a Hungarian/German Chef), I did see the last one was of him and a woman, like at a dinner. It was on his phone twice...like she had sent it to him, and he had saved it...just before we met. Noted. There may be another woman that he is dating. (at least one...I could see no other photos on his phone of women...yeah, I looked as best I could...over his shoulder.
After a couple hours there, we decided to go somewhere else to watch the sunset. We got lost in the parking lot looking for his Porsche for about an hour and a half...which still makes me chuckle remembering it! Hilarious!! He was dripping sweat from the heat of the search, and said that he'd just like to go back to my place and sit on the balcony. Ok, so now that we had met, and he was clearly too sweaty to go anywhere, I agreed.
Mr. TooBusy came back to my apartment, and after going over all the appropriate conduct in my head of staying fully clothed on the first date, I told him to take off his clothes, so that I could wash them for him. (I was feeling domestic...it comes in spurts)😂
I would have to say that I have never felt as much of a connection, as I did with this man. He was very authoritative, but also protective, with confidence. This is exactly the kind of man that I hope is looking for me! And he seemed to be! Again, it's irresistible when a man is totally into me!!
Told me he thought I was "perfect," loved my legs, and the shapeliness of them...said it was from riding my bicycle...Did I tell you he was a pro-cyclist until an injury in 1987? Also said he is "SO PICKY!!" So am I! He loved it that I've been single for at least 10 years,(I lost count, seems like I've been saying 10 for at least another year now)with no real relationship over 2 months. Mr. TooBusy said usually he didn't date women under 5'6 ( I am only 5'2), but he thought that I was "absolutely gorgeous," and he spelled gorgeous correctly! YAY!!💘 (so far so good)
However, he was in an occupation that I know very well. He is a private chef, and the consultant for many kitchens around Miami. My ex-husband had restaurants and was also a chef. In my marriage, as long as we lived in Naples, FL, I was a 1-man show. Exactly the same kind of personality. I'm not sure if it is the occupation or the success driven personality that I am drawn to...wait, I KNOW it is the success driven personality that I'm drawn to, but I keep thinking, there has to be BALANCE.
He told me ON OUR FIRST DATE, that we are coming upon "season," when there will be times that I won't see him, and he told me, "you will think there is another woman, and there won't be...it's just that I get so busy!!"
At first the only thing that I could see that we didn't have in common was his love of cooking(he kept saying that I was going to have to start cooking😕...didn't think it was funny, (I thought it was hilarious)😂 that he found my pots and pans in the oven, as he was opening it and asking, "so have you ever opened this??" (After I had just bought over $100 of pots and pans for HIM to use!!!), his appreciation for older cars, (well, let's face it, an older Porsche still is a PORSCHE!), and his desire to have the thermostat at 75 degrees and above (I love to have it cold)...eh, ok we can deal with this ...right? I can get accustomed to feeling a bit sweaty in my home...if he's there!? But I just had to figure out how not to sweat!!
So, over the course of 18 days, I saw this man 3 long visits. During the course of the week, Mr. TooBusy would text me, but never call me, and though his texts were always very sweet, like "thinking of you💋"
They were also pretty short, and quick like, "Hi baby, sorry, just so freaking busy😐"
As the first text of the day at 5pm. I guess he was "sorry," because he had told me on our last date that he'd like to see me in the middle of the week a couple of times?
Never a 😊...always😐 However, he also told me he loved being as busy as he was ...and loved what
he did!
I noticed after our 2nd date, that his profile became hidden on the dating app where we met. I was pleased, and hid mine as well. Deleted all dating apps from my phone, and there were a few!!😂
I decided I was "all in." I think the problem with the dating apps is that when you find one who you have a great connection with, it can get to be a distraction if you don't stop LOOKING. This man seemed to be everything that I would like to add to my life, and we had an AMAZING connection.
We never went outside of my apartment, since our 1st date, except the 2nd date when he took me to Costco, after he said he was going to cook for me, but I admitted that I didn't even have salt and pepper. I remember now, the 1st date he also wanted to bring over a bottle of wine, except that I told him I wouldn't be home!! I am not going to have a 1st date at home with ANYONE. After our 1st date, he always told me that he was so "exhausted" and wanted to just be home with me. He didn't like crowds, and didn't want notoriety. Cooks for famous people, privately, signs confidentiality agreements, so couldn't tell me whom, but had no inclination to be famous himself. However, to me, he looked amazing, like a famous chef, and acted like one.
I understood. I lived this for 13 of my 17 married years, with my husband, a Chef, in the restaurant business. Mr. TooBusy and I talked about vacations. Well, he can't take a vacation now. He can't take a vacation over the holidays. He can't go away with me for the weekend December 7th...as that is too short of notice!! I reminded him it is 2 months away!! Mr.TooBusy said, "well, that is during Art Basel."
UGH. Then I started asking myself, as I am sure he did too...is this still a "fit?"
Is this the life that I want to live again?
Where my partner is too busy to be with me during the week or during special times??
When I was younger, I had young kids to take care of, so being married to a restaurant entrepreneur was do-able. Still, I had told Mr. TooBusy:
"Busy is ok right now, because I am busy building my new business too!"
geltracy.com
Then, I woke up in the middle of the night, and picked up my computer and opened it on my lap in bed, and as tho it was a message from the Universe, it opened to the dating app where I had met Mr. Toobusy. I had wondered if he had un-hid his profile after our conversation the day before, where we were both left feeling empty, I'd say, because I had things that I wanted a partner to share with me, and he was unavailable. I hadn't checked this app in weeks since I hid it. So strange that it opened right up like that for me!!
So, I went to his profile, and sure enough it was unhid.
So, I followed suit. Un-hid mine, looked at his (knowing he would be notified)
And updated a couple of pictures.
The top picture here is now my profile picture.
Thing is, we only have time for the things that are really important to us.
Don't we?
Life is too short.
If there is anything I've learned, it's that if something is REALLY important to you,
You'll make time for it.
So, with that, I'm grateful for my time with Mr. TooBusy, and I'm getting closer to the relationship of my dreams, and maybe this could be it in the future, but clearly right now, it is not.💗
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